Isn't it interesting when the same quality in one person can create two opposite emotions in another person.
In relationships, people can both love and hate specific character traits in each other. I hate when my better half reacts to obstacles in life with a relaxed attitude when clearly, in my eyes, for the problem to be solved we need to be moving tensely at mach 5 speed. However, my husbands same stoic outlook is also the quiet that calms my passionate storm when I am in a frenzy about stuff I have no control over and cannot change, and therefore, should just relax and let life happen.
When I am feeling frustrated because of a certain action by a loved one in my life, I can turn the negative feeling around by focusing not on the action but the character trait that created the action as normally the trait itself is one that I admire.
If I were to actually write down everything that frustrates me about anyone I am close to, I would see the same actions that can unnerve me at times are created by the traits that attracted me to that person to begin with.
Just a thought...
It could be worse. He could be way more wound than you and then you would have TWO tense people trying to fix an issue. I think it is nice to have balance. Of course, I do not live in your shoes..Haha
ReplyDeleteOh for sure...he is the ying to my yang or the yang to my ying...
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